Love

 

 

As long as there is love inside your heart,
happiness is just around the corner.

BOOKS (Wisdom)..

"The more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go.” 

 

― Dr. Seuss, I Can Read With My Eyes Shut!

Let Go of Regret by Making a Promise to Yourself...

“Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places.” ~Unknown

 Regret can be such a paralyzing emotion, yet it is also universal. At some point in our lives, in one way or another, we each wrestle with regret.

 I have also come to realize (through ebbs and flows) that the universe has a way of showing you what rock bottom really looks like in order to demonstrate that you are capable of picking yourself up again.


 In the face of regret, the best thing you can do for yourself is not look back, but to make a promise to yourself that you can learn from the experience and do the right thing going forward. 


 My promises to myself include ensuring that I never take anyone for granted again, and act only with love and compassion for myself and for others. The endings we experience in life are the world’s way of showing you that expansion is imminent.

 if you can’t see through the fog of regret today, know that one day you will. Start making that promise to yourself today that you will no longer sit in your regret, but move forward with integrity, dignity, and self-respect.

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3 Tips to Get Out of Your Head and Start Expressing Yourself...

 

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” 

~Bruce Lee

I have always been timid when it comes to expressing myself, speaking my mind, and standing up for something. This stems from being raised in a culture where showing emotions is frowned upon.

Nothing I ever did seemed good enough. There was constant criticism that I could do better, and be better. I was raised to never to talk back to my seniors and not to say anything when I had nothing nice to say.

So, I’ve always played it safe and stood by the sideline, and I never wanted to rock the boat. And sometimes, when I’ve felt like saying something, I’ve wondered if people would even care.

my inner voice grew stronger and stronger, and it wanted to come out and express itself.

 Stop bottling up your thoughts and start expressing yourself without care.

I’ve learned to nurture my voice and not spend so much time crafting my message and worrying about what others think.


These are the three philosophies that have helped me get out of my head, let go, and start expressing myself.

1. The only person you need to impress is you.

Yes, it’s scary to put yourself out there to have people judge you. But if you know who you are and what you stand for, does it matter what others think, when you know your truth and what it means to you?

 The truth is, if you are comfortable in your own skin, what others think of you probably won’t bother you that much. After all, you will always have people who will be for you or against you, so why not stand for something and just be you? What’s the worst thing that could happen?

 

2. Stand for something.

This is important. It allows you to let your personality shine. It is also the foundation of your values, which help shapes your identity, allowing people to connect with you, enabling you to surround yourself with like-minded people for support.

 Remember, no man is an island, as John Donne wrote. We, as human beings, need to interact with another and need each other to find fulfillment in our lives. So stand for something to build your world of lovers and ‘haters,’ instead of having no supporters or challengers to help you grow.

 

3. Let go of the outcome.

Sometimes we say things or do things because we want to get a certain reaction or action out of people. However, keeping in mind we have no control over anything in life (except for our actions and our responses), why not speak your truth? 


“Say what you wanna say, and let the words fall out. I wanna see you be brave.” ~Sara Bareilles, Brave 



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You’re One Moment Away from Being Who You Want to Be...

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

 ~Maria Robinson

“I’m good—except for the fact that it is Monday, of course.”



 “Mondays are the start of something new. It is a new week, full of possibilities. I have five days to get things done, which feels better than the end of the week where I am rushing to complete thing before the weekend.”


 What you think, causing what you feel, about something is just a matter of perspective, and sometimes, the script in our head runs on automatic for years, unquestioned, unchallenged. What if you flipped the script? What would it be like to challenge our thinking?

 Life happens in moments, strung together to make up a day, a year, a life.

 How you choose to write the script that runs through your head is completely up to you. 


The catchy slogan “fake it till you make it” helps you rewrite your script in a different way.

 Each new encounter allows me to question my thoughts and feelings, trying on concepts like clothes, seeing if they are a good fit.

 Connecting with yourself, your heart, and gut and soul and spirit is the most important thing you can do to help you with your rewrites.

 Flipping the script isn’t easy. But who else is more important than you?

 Each day, each moment offers us the opportunity to flip the script, to be something completely different, and because new moments come along sixty times a minute, you are only a moment away from becoming exactly who you want to be.


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3 Self-Honoring Ways to Deal with Low-Energy Days..

“Being who you are is another way of accepting yourself.” ~Unknown

So, I went to the gym to increase my endorphins. I figured that a good workout would be the perfect cure-all.

It was in that moment, hanging up the phone from my coach that I realized, I needed to stop trying to fix my low energy day. There was no “one reason” I was feeling this way. It wasn’t anything I did or didn’t do; it just was, and it was time for me to be okay with that. 


The only place I had heard of such acceptance was within my Human Design studies, so I picked up a book.
According to Human Design, most of us have what is considered to be an “emotional authority.” It means that we tend to let our emotions rule our decisions, and we can easily make rash decisions just to end the emotional turmoil we feel. Or, to the opposite extreme, we can say “yes” in an effort to hold onto an exciting expectation.

 I’ve learned that the key is not to focus solely on our high-energy feelings, or to get rid of our low energy. The key as Buddha says, is for us to find “the middle way.” Release attachment to either end of the spectrum and find the still point. That is where emotional clarity lies. 


Thus, on that day a few months back, I asked myself to stop pushing. I stopped pushing the negative emotions away and I stopped pushing myself into a more positive high.
Instead, I honored and acknowledged my wonky feelings in these three ways.

1. Self-pampering. 

 I let my to-do list fly out the window and I gave my body and my mind my full attention. I did a lot of journal writing that day. I like journaling when I can, and it helped me explore areas where I could really stand up for myself in my business and in my relationships.

 

2. The twenty-four-hour rule.

I released myself from making any big decisions. I knew my energy was all over the place and the key was to wait for clarity. Thus, I gave myself a twenty-four-hour rule. No big decisions were to be carried out or expressed until 9:00AM the next day, at the earliest.

3. Judgment-free space.

I deemed my home, my body, and the three-foot bubble around me wherever I went to be my judgment-free space. There was nothing good or bad, right or wrong about my low energy day. It was here for me, as an amazingly imperfect human being, to experience.
This allowed me to embrace it and learn from it. It was no one’s fault. There was nothing wrong with me for feeling this way. It wasn’t going to last forever, and everyone would still love me in the morning.


Which of these three self-honoring actions will you try when you have a low energy, “rage” day?


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Avoid the Pain of Emotional Eating and Transform Your Mood...

 

“To ensure good health: eat lightly, breathe deeply, live moderately, cultivate cheerfulness, and maintain an interest in life.” 

 ~William Londen

In essence, interconnectedness refers to the linkages between all things. Some even take it a step further and say that not only is everything linked, but in actuality, there are no real distinctions between you and me; between thought and behavior; or between past, present, and future.

On the surface, the concept of interconnectedness seems simple—every thing is linked to everything else and every one is linked to everyone else. However, in practice, applying the concept of interconnectedness to the way I live has been anything but simple.

After much contemplation, I came to the conclusion that if I were going to truly live interconnectedness (and not just think or read about it), I would need to fully grasp the fact that my thoughts, actions (or inactions), and outcomes were fundamentally intertwined.
This not only impacted the ways I engaged with others, but also shaped the ways in which I engaged with myself, particularly with respect to what, when, and how I eat.

Set a Mood of Joy By Creating a Nourishment Ritual

Stop.

Now, when I’m sad, angry, or stressed, I stop. I stop, I note what I am feeling, and then I think about what role I have played—either through my actions or through my appraisals of the situation—in whatever has led me to feeling negative. I remember that I am interconnected with whatever it seems like on the surface is causing my negative mood.

 Importantly, just as I help to create my own sadness, anger, or stress, I can also transform my sadness, anger, or stress into my joy.

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Making Your Passion Your Career (Despite the Naysayers)...

“Don’t let life randomly kick you into the adult you don’t want to become.” 

~Chris Hadfield, astronaut

As a kid, you put zero thought into doing what you loved.

I never thought of asking, “Why not?” Why couldn’t writing be a career? I just accepted that a job or career had to be something you made a realistic, intellectual choice about and not one that came from your heart.  

I heard Oprah say that as a child she was asked what she thought she would do as a career.
She said, “Well I like talking to people.”
The person responded, “Well, you can’t make money doing that.”

7 Failed Careers Later

years later, after I was told I couldn’t make a career out of writing, I ended up with a resume that was four pages long, and days that were like a yearlong run-on sentence.

 

A Return to Love 

Then I reached a turning point, which made me realize I needed to go back to doing what I loved and make it work somehow.

Do you recognize your passion? Not hobbies, or things you like doing for fun sometimes—the one thing that rises above all. Think back to what you loved to do as a child, what you gravitated toward for no reason other than fun, and you will find it.

Are you ready to say yes? Turn your passion into a career one step at a time with the following tips.

1. Tell one stranger.

Even before you’re working at making your passion your day job or income source, go ahead and tell someone that you’re a _______. (Fill in the blank). At any chance you get, do it again.

2. Obsess over it.

Move your passion from the back burner of your mind to the front. Think about it every chance you get if you’re not already doing so. Read about people who have successfully transitioned into the work you want to be doing.

3. Do it for love.

Whatever your passion, forget about making it into a career until you spend enough time reveling in the absolute joy of doing it. Paint, write, dance, take photos, carve wood, whatever it may be for love and only love.

4. Hope above all.

Decide that you will never give up hope

5. Shout it out loud.

Put an ad out, or tell people that you are willing to do some work in your field of passion for pay or for free.

6. Wear the tightest belt ever.

Pull. Tight, if you must (if funds are an issue). I hate this part, but I must be honest. See where you could take some funds from one budget and put it toward a course or mentor so you are not doing this alone.

7. Forget “Easy does it.”

Easy doesn’t do it. Period. You’ll face challenges, and resistance from yourself and others. Do it anyway.

7. Forget “Easy does it.”

Easy doesn’t do it. Period. You’ll face challenges, and resistance from yourself and others. Do it anyway.

Stop Looking at the Odds of Failing

The odds against successfully turning your passion into a career and making money from it seem so overwhelming. So stop looking at the odds.

 

Reclaim the act of doing your passionate work as your career, as if happiness depended upon it.
Because it does.

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Why Fulfillment Comes from Being Yourself and How to Be Okay with That...

“To wish you are someone else is to waste the person you are.”  ~Sven Goran Eriksson

The super-successful people are doing exactly the same things as the not so successful people.


I’ve been on a merry-go-round of trying to be someone or something that everyone will like. But I know that not everyone will like everything, so I’ve set myself an impossible task.


 
I also know that self-love and acceptance is the key to everything I want. Not just success, but to be happy with who I am—at last.

 Everyone is trying to belong.

 I want to understand how I can offer something to the world, make a difference, be liked by the people I meet and, ultimately, belong. Just like those super successful people, but not them—just myself.
 We are on fast-forward compared to people who don’t take much notice of developing themselves. So every few months we become a different person, who is the same person, with a lot more knowledge and different way of looking at the world.


 Next time you look at someone successful or beautiful or passionate and you have those inspired feelings of “Maybe I could be like that too?” always remember that, yes, you can do what they do, but you can never be like them.

By not being you, you won’t be on purpose, you won’t be sharing your gift, you won’t be changing those lives. This makes me dig deep and get real with myself, because someone is relying on me to be me!


You don’t have to know who you are to be who you are; just do what makes you feel alive, live how you want to live, and don’t let the constraints of other people’s stories hinder you in any way.
Today, and every day, I’m choosing to be myself. And I’m getting better at it.


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What to Do When People in Your Life Don’t Want to Change

“If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”                             

~Mary Engelbreit

All of us know at least one person who we think needs a self-help course or book more than we do. They’re the “wrong” ones, at least in our minds.

 When people in our life don’t want to change, we change ourselves.

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The Real Reason Some People Always Seem to Push Your Buttons

 

“Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion.” ~Buddha

 I always felt invisible whenever my husband and I got together with a certain couple.

For the longest time I couldn’t figure out why this self-absorbed behavior bothered me so much.

You see, my biggest negative childhood trauma was feeling invisible and unworthy of my father’s love. So anytime someone—like this couple—ignores me and I feel invisible, the little girl inside me feels pain.

You may have people that trigger the young vulnerable parts of you, leading you to feel unloved, unworthy, and invisible.

This little girl that is frozen in time in my psyche felt worthless and not enough.

Antidepressants and therapy took the edge off of my depression and anxiety, but they didn’t heal the source of the hurt.

The young parts of you that hold negative emotions of shame, guilt, rejection, abandonment, and unworthiness need the love and reassurance from you that they never got when they first experienced negative events.

 The little girl now understands what happened and she’s able to believe that she is worthy, enough, and lovable because I told her she was. She is no longer frozen in time and has come into the present with me where she resides in my heart.

 Who pushes your buttons? What is the gift they are giving you to help you identify your most painful wounds?

 This re-parenting technique that resulted in unconditionally loving myself has positively and permanently shifted my happiness set point and boosted my self-esteem and confidence.

 Healing myself through this technique has allowed me to create a new narrative for my life story. I now believe the Universe purposely gave me negative experiences for the evolution of my soul.

 You too can figure out your life’s mission by healing your emotional scars first. Then you can figure out the new narrative that helps you make lemonade out of your lemons. As a result, you can live fully with joy and purpose before you die. 


When you heal the emotional scars that keep you unhappy, you can significantly improve your happiness set point and positively change the course of your life.


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