“Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.” ~Alice Miller
I’d like to share the mindfulness tricks that I used that day to recover
from this short burst of insanity. I hope they inspire those among you
who unleash the dogs of anger a little too quickly, like me.
Ground yourself.
When angry, stop whatever you’re doing and fully open up to your sensations. Give yourself a minute to experience the physical buzz of anger—shaking hands, cold sweat, racing heart. Breathe deeply and bring your awareness down to each part of your body.
Watch the Mental firework.
Anger is a red comet leaving a trail of resentful thoughts. It often stirs up your own habitual rumination, and it’s easy to let it carry you away. Just remember that mental agitation is totally harmless as long as you don’t follow it.
Offer a little Compassion.
The Buddha said that compassion is the best antidote against anger, but ideally you want to verify that claim for yourself. Your own experience will speak louder than a teaching given centuries ago.
To put it simply: slip your feet in the other person’s shoes and imagine how it feels to be in their position. It’s probably the best way to dissolve hard feelings.
Win by losing
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