10 Invaluable Lessons That Could Change Your Life...

“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.” ~Albert Einstein

1. Being happy is not about what we achieve. 

Achievement is the icing on the cake, so it’s important to learn to like the cake that’s the sum of who we are first, so we have something to ice.

2. We are all doing our best.

I used to hold myself to the highest scrutinizing criticism and moral compass.
I was excellent at delivering self-punishment as judge, gaoler, and executioner for every small flaw, mistake, or underachievement.

I’ve learned to balance it out by being more lenient, forgiving, and loving toward myself and accepting that we’re all doing our best—and this rule applies to me too.

3. We have to know and respect our deal breakers. 

 Self-worth is an action

 

 I’ve let a lot of people throughout my life treat me with disrespect—lie, cheat, take liberties, bully, blame, shame, and even abuse. I didn’t stand for anything. I couldn’t say no.

Without no, my yes had no value.

Now my deal breakers are respect, honesty, and responsibility

4. Other people’s actions aren’t about us.

in my twenties, my ex fiancé cheated on me. For a long time I believed it was my fault, that it must have been something I did or didn’t do—that I wasn’t good enough.

• -I realize now that how any other adult chooses to behave is about them, not me.

• -We’re only responsible for our own actions, feelings, and words, which means the buck stops here, but this also frees us from wasting energy and time on cleaning up other people’s messes

5. We need to trust our intuition. 

Made many mistakes in my life because I didn’t trust my intuition, nature’s gift of survival, which helps us thrive.

I got involved with the wrong people, relationships, and jobs, ignoring that I knew they weren’t right for me from the start, and then paid the price by wasting time and energy trying to make them work.

6. All the studying in the world will never be enough. 

• I’ve spent years studying, seeking to understand people and the meaning of life, love, and the universe. I have letters after my name to prove it, and much of it was a waste of time.

• Most things are just stepping-stones to somewhere else, often on a cyclical path back to what you knew already.

• Knowledge is power, but experience in using it, applying it, seeing how it feels, and making mistakes trumps everything, because that’s wisdom.

• Good old-fashioned hands on living and having the courage to get involved and experience makes you wise. Then you have a beautiful lesson to share.

7. Face the scary stuff.

•  I wasted so much time hiding from the boogie monster, the scary truth inside of me. I just had to be brave and come face to face with how I felt and what I desired

  We travel through life alone, and by becoming our own best friend we know longer have to fear being unloved.

8. Accept that life and people are inconsistent.

So I got stuck needing to please other people so they would take care of me, but I always felt let down and disappointed.

Change is the only consistent thing there is. Accepting this empowers us to learn to depend on ourselves.

9. We can be our own best friends. 

I turned my curiosity toward finding out about myself and what I actually like, enjoy, and don’t want. I became my own best friend and I’ve got my back if there’s a problem.

I came to know me, inside and out, and what matters to me, so I built a boat of substance and I’m no longer drowning. The world around me can be wild and changeable like the sea, but now I can ride out the waves without fear. The same can be true for you.

10. We are enough.

 We’re unique, priceless, and irreplaceable, and the sum of every experience.

 

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